hey Coco, welcome to the board!

ok, been out of the u.s.a. for a while now so i will need clarification on what "DH" means. last i knew it was "designated hitter"

but i am guessing your use of it is "dear husband"?
a lot to take in from your post but since you have about 10 months before you make the jump, a good bit of advice is to spend a lot more time here on the forums.
i know you have been reading a lot over the past few days but it takes a LOT more time and research, after all, this community has been around for years.
this type of broad posts tend to intimidate many members since they touch on sooooo many diff. topics.
you have asked about...
- work.
- marriage.
- housing.
- id cards.
- banking.
- packing and shipping.
- etc...
... all in the same thread
you should separate your questions and post them either on already existing threads on the topics or start new topics if you can't find a thread on what you are interested in..
always a good idea to keep them in the corresponding forums as well.
also, try and make your questions as specific as possible.
not to worry, you will get used to posting.
remember, there are a ton of peeps here ready and willing to help you out, just have to make it as easy as possible for us
saludos,
jer...